My daughter and my fiance, she's accusing him of sexual harrassment! Options

[Emotionally_Lost]

My 16 year-old daughter is accusing my fiance of verbal sexual harrassment. She claims he's been asking her for pictures of her naked and making inappropriate comments. This has been tearing my family apart since no one seems to be wanting to tell the truth. She claims it was happening for like 3 weeks however, she's been hanging all over him calling him daddy and laughing as usual up until this day she got so mad at him she decided to tell me this.

She shows no signs of fearing him, resenting, or hating him but claims all this is true. My fiance says that she is retaliating against him because he helped convince me to put her 21 year old boyfriend in jail and is resenting him for it and would do anything to get him out of my life like he got her boyfriend out of hers.

I recently found an old phone that has some pictures of her in her bra and undies and it was hidden. He claims he hid it because he didn't want me to over react and hurt my daughter because I would get so mad at her for taking those pictures and sending them to her little boyfriends. He said she asked for the phone a while back so she can play with it and then gave it back. Did she take them and purposely leave them on the phone? Knowing he was going to see them? if not, How did HE get them? She says she didn't send them to him...

but there's so much that is missing from this, its hard to tell fact from false.
HIM:
How did he get those pictures on an old phone?
why did he not show me the pictures as he claims?
Why didn't he delete them after he decided to just not tell and protect her from me?
Why did he hide the phone?

HER:
How come she doesn't act different? Like show resentment?
She still walks about all happy and is her usual self?
She still dresses with low cut tops and high shorts


She has a history of lying and over-stretching the truth to get her way and he could be covering himself so he doesn't loose his family. My two sons dont believe her because of her truth telling track record and because when she gets mad at him when she doesn't get her way they've overheard her saying that one day she'll get rid of him forever.

My whole family is distraught over this. We just really need to know the truth because its tearing my family apart.


-Emotionally Lost

[sleep is my mist...]

They could both be lying and telling the truth. What's your intuition tell you?

[Las]

My 16 year-old daughter is accusing my fiance of verbal sexual harrassment. She claims he's been asking her for pictures of her naked and making inappropriate comments. This has been tearing my family apart since no one seems to be wanting to tell the truth. She claims it was happening for like 3 weeks however, she's been hanging all over him calling him daddy and laughing as usual up until this day she got so mad at him she decided to tell me this.

She shows no signs of fearing him, resenting, or hating him but claims all this is true. My fiance says that she is retaliating against him because he helped convince me to put her 21 year old boyfriend in jail and is resenting him for it and would do anything to get him out of my life like he got her boyfriend out of hers.

I recently found an old phone that has some pictures of her in her bra and undies and it was hidden. He claims he hid it because he didn't want me to over react and hurt my daughter because I would get so mad at her for taking those pictures and sending them to her little boyfriends. He said she asked for the phone a while back so she can play with it and then gave it back. Did she take them and purposely leave them on the phone? Knowing he was going to see them? if not, How did HE get them? She says she didn't send them to him...

but there's so much that is missing from this, its hard to tell fact from false.
HIM:
How did he get those pictures on an old phone?
why did he not show me the pictures as he claims?
Why didn't he delete them after he decided to just not tell and protect her from me?
Why did he hide the phone?

HER:
How come she doesn't act different? Like show resentment?
She still walks about all happy and is her usual self?
She still dresses with low cut tops and high shorts


She has a history of lying and over-stretching the truth to get her way and he could be covering himself so he doesn't loose his family. My two sons dont believe her because of her truth telling track record and because when she gets mad at him when she doesn't get her way they've overheard her saying that one day she'll get rid of him forever.

My whole family is distraught over this. We just really need to know the truth because its tearing my family apart.


-Emotionally Lost

[Las]

As in many of these situations... I assume your fiance is living with you and your daughter..

first mistake living together with kids ..
If that's the case then you are teaching your daughter that 'shacking up' is ok.

how long have you known him?
Where's her father?

Seems like you have a decision to make...

[ladyorion]

As in many of these situations... I assume your fiance is living with you and your daughter..

first mistake living together with kids ..
If that's the case then you are teaching your daughter that 'shacking up' is ok.

how long have you known him?
Where's her father?

Seems like you have a decision to make...

I hate to admit it, but he's right...

[Celestia]

As in many of these situations... I assume your fiance is living with you and your daughter..

first mistake living together with kids ..
If that's the case then you are teaching your daughter that 'shacking up' is ok.

how long have you known him?
Where's her father?

Seems like you have a decision to make...

For all you know they were in a relationship for a long time before they started living together. It's not like she's dragging random men through the house and screwing them right in front of her child! Personally, I think it's wrong to judge her on that. Her daughter is more than likely lashing out because she doesn't want a new father. The phone is damning evidence though. I suggest you and your fiaance have a trial seperation.I mean what come first, this guy, or you DAUGHTER.

[ladyorion]

No "reply" here either!

What a waste of time!

[sleep is my mist...]

I know, it sucks! We get drawn in to a story then....nothing. I think they're fishing to get invited on the show.

[Blondie]

I know, it sucks! We get drawn in to a story then....nothing. I think they're fishing to get invited on the show.

Me thinks you're tight on this one Sleep...Time to cut bait!!!

[Cuddly84]

Your fiancee is lying through his teeth.
The reason ur daughter wouldnt be showing it as ur fiancee has most likely threatened her to keep her cool or he will hurt her.

Ive been through this **** and Im glad i had a mother to stick by me and get justice from the police.


STICK UP FOR YA BLOODY DAUGHTER NOT SOME ******* **** U GET A **** OFF.

[chocolatesmusic]

Emotionally Lost,

I'll just tell you like this, when i was in high school my friends step-father hit on me so i told her she said that he ALWAYS hit on her growing up.
Her mother met him and married him while my friend was in diapers. And he still hit on her all her life, but i also thought it was strange that in as
early as jr. high her mother would let her boyfriend spend the night. But i soon found out why. My friend and I had a plan to set up her step-father
because he was a freakin' perv. So we finally told the mother over the phone she told us to come over to explain what happen. When we go there the
perv was there too we explained how he hit on me and gave me money and that he had been hitting on her all her life. (this was not the first time my
friend told her mother) And she actually told us that she did not believe us. Now I came from a heathly family mother father, brother - and i could not
understand how a grown women would take her husbands side rather than her child and she refused to believe my story. I was floored my mother would
never ever believe a man or should i say a D$%& over me. NEVER...you really must love him more than your child, don't you think you can get someone eles?

Well i just want your stupid azz to know that my friend ended up using drugs she was so depressed as she grew older, with her mother choosing some man
over her child (retarded) and SHE IS NOW DEAD OF A DRUG OVERDOSE! So i say keep choosing your perv man over your child and you will see what happens
you idiot! I LOST MY FRIEND BECAUSE OF A MOTHER LIKE YOU! My friend walked around acting normal too all her life until she FREAKIN KILLED HERSELF
THROUGH DRUGS! I WANT TO KICK YOUR AZZ FOR BEING SO STUPID! JUST LEAVE EVEN IF YOUR DAUGHTER WAS LYING THERE IS SOMETHING YOUR NOT
DOING AS A MOTHER....LEAVE THAT PERV GIRL!

Chocolatesmusic

[Emotionally_Lost]

I wanted to thank you all for your responses. And Chocolate...I dont take offense to your emotional outburst. However, that's not how you get a point across...anyways...The reason why I HAVEN'T responded was because after I posted this, sh*t hit the fan at the house. I decided to confront this and end this BS. I dont know what part was true or not but I couldnt live with myself any longer wondering who was lying and to the benefit and safety of my daughter, I chose to walk away. I didn't want to risk her being right and I can never turn back time and fix it. I can find another man, no problem, but fix what's broken with my child, can never be replaced.

NOW, once I chose to end this, I kicked him straight the F* out and I didn't even let him get his clothes. He left and once he left, I started ramsacking the house and putting everything I found in a bag...well i found drugs, ****, and straight crap. So needless to say TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS dont just make a call over no man. Chocolate honey, I already made the decision. Sometimes you have to put your story out there and just let people think for themselves.

I AM A GREAT AND WONDERFUL MOTHER, so dont judge what you dont know.

Thank you to everyone for your kind support and if you want to know more details on this, let me know. I have gone through so much since I posted this and I am barely getting on my feet now.